Do you know someone who is simply a happy person? It’s as if they were created with 100% happy cells throughout their bodies.
Do you know someone who you would say is a negative person – someone who always sees the bad in everything? They wake up that way and go to sleep that way.
Now. . .which person would you prefer to spend time with?
“The happiest people seem to be those who have no particular reason for being so except that they are so.”
- William Ralph Inge
If you are having trouble being “happy” try serving others. In the book 101 Ways to Have A Great Day at Work, by Stephanie Goddard Davidson, it says:
To be of service to others can be a path to happiness. Where can you be of service to the people you work with? Try looking at everything you do today as helping someone else instead of another checkmark on your to-do list.
Over the nine years I have been at my current job, I have collected a good number of leadership books and motivational books. One I want to share with you today is called The Fred Factor, by Mark Sanborn. It is not a new book, (published in 2004), but its principles on how to turn the ordinary into the extraordinary in everything you do remains current.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
In one of the last chapters in the book, Sanborn asked “Fred” what motivates him to be a ”Fred”. Here is the summary:
Do good and you’ll feel good.
The best never rest.
Treat customers and others as friends.
The impact you have on others is the reward.
Live the golden rule.
Fear nothing except to waste the moment.
“Look to every day as a new day, and make each day better than the last. Even on my days off, I have goals, and I feel like I need to get a lot done. If I feel like I wasted the day, I don’t sleep quite as well at night.” - Fred
“Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don’t waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.”
Two years ago I began reading Strengths Based Leadership by Tom Rath and Barry Conchie. I took the StrengthsFinder 2.0 assessment which give you your top 5 talents, or strengths. According to Rath and Barry, “These talents are natural, recurring patterns of thoughts, feelings, or behaviors. They are things you do naturally – like breathing. You can’t not do them. You actually do them without even trying.”
We use this book in our Community Leadership Class where I work. I recently sent the book to a friend of mine and encouraged her to take the assessment. She was blown away by the results. It described her perfectly. She is having her husband and her sister take the assessment next.
I would agree with her. My top 5 are truly wonderful descriptions of who I really am:
If you have taken this assessment, I would love to hear what you think of it. If you haven’t, I would highly recommend it. You can get more information on the book and the assessment here.